The second comment, by Disappointed: "Transgendered folk have a tendency to become obsessed with their own entitlement without affording the same decencies they expect to others."
This is unfortunately misleading and incorrect. As a legally "f" mainstream transexual woman, i knew my gender with a searing, all-encompassing clarity of awareness at age 4.
So much for that being a "lifestyle choice", much less deviant sexuality choice at that age. On another view, i was so badly bullied, beaten, pushed completely outside of all "normal" cultural boxes, and harassed for my differences, and i barely survived my childhood in this society as a result. Entitlement ? Ok - obsessed ?
if anything, i am obsessed with being the most warmly, utterly old-school, real golden rule, and respectful neighbor and fellow citizen, to everyone, no matter the face of every hatred i have ever had to endure, against such incredible ignorance as this...
Here is what else i am obsessed with. An average unemployment rate for TS females at 25-30% and 15-20% homelessness for many of us.
I am obsessed with the fact that when i transitioned, and even though i have really good features and a non-masculine bulid, educated, well spoken, non-flambouyant, was never a gay male, total opposite ALL negative stereotypes, and i still had to deal with being pushed away by 90% of my own family, pushed out of most industries i had worked with, and have been harassed as both a pedestrian and a driver, stalked, laughed at, hated, insulted, disrespected, lied about, and regularly conflated with the most disgusting hateful criminal scum that even EXISTS on the planet (pedophiles and predators), none of which, would likely ever even DARE to change their entire NORMAL modus operandi, of their typically under the radar stealthy means, to do the sick shit they do, much less try to pass as even a poor TS or TG woman, have no supporting documentation, and raise the risk of getting caught, exponentially...
....as well, you seem to have no awareness whatsoever of the standard CLINICAL REQUIREMENT that anyone in transition of gender MUST be ABLE TO PROVE that they can adjust and function in normal society in their ideal gender, (called the RLE or RLT - otherwise known as "The real life test") and that also means, self-entitled woman that has had the LUXURY of taking your femininity for granted, likely most of your own life, that EVERY single pre-op TS woman in this ENTIRE society has at one time, had to (respectfully, and discreetly, and VERY carefully) share facilities with YOU, and every other woman, and yet, there has never YET, in over 100 legislative districts, in more than 20 years, been such a hypothetical fearful "incident" of "forced penetration" as you graphically described, and seem to still think carries some valid measure of argument in context to the lives of real Transexual females.
"Entitlement" to simply survive an utter daily living hell of a minefield, and often desperate, dangerous, expensive, & often nothing short of impossible process to complete for many of us, and do so without rape, abuse, homelessness, familylessness, extreme hatred, misperception, stereotyping, and social discriminations to a level you could not possibly comprehend, has nothing to do with what "Entitlement" and "Obsessed" as you very shallowly characterized it.
In this matter you are entirely incorrect, and should not speak for TS women unless you are one, or are a close friend, ally, or family to one of us, and have any better understanding of this issue.
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This is unfortunately misleading and incorrect. As a legally "f" mainstream transexual woman, i knew my gender with a searing, all-encompassing clarity of awareness at age 4.
So much for that being a "lifestyle choice", much less deviant sexuality choice at that age. On another view, i was so badly bullied, beaten, pushed completely outside of all "normal" cultural boxes, and harassed for my differences, and i barely survived my childhood in this society as a result. Entitlement ? Ok - obsessed ?
if anything, i am obsessed with being the most warmly, utterly old-school, real golden rule, and respectful neighbor and fellow citizen, to everyone, no matter the face of every hatred i have ever had to endure, against such incredible ignorance as this...
Here is what else i am obsessed with. An average unemployment rate for TS females at 25-30% and 15-20% homelessness for many of us.
I am obsessed with the fact that when i transitioned, and even though i have really good features and a non-masculine bulid, educated, well spoken, non-flambouyant, was never a gay male, total opposite ALL negative stereotypes, and i still had to deal with being pushed away by 90% of my own family, pushed out of most industries i had worked with, and have been harassed as both a pedestrian and a driver, stalked, laughed at, hated, insulted, disrespected, lied about, and regularly conflated with the most disgusting hateful criminal scum that even EXISTS on the planet (pedophiles and predators), none of which, would likely ever even DARE to change their entire NORMAL modus operandi, of their typically under the radar stealthy means, to do the sick shit they do, much less try to pass as even a poor TS or TG woman, have no supporting documentation, and raise the risk of getting caught, exponentially...
....as well, you seem to have no awareness whatsoever of the standard CLINICAL REQUIREMENT that anyone in transition of gender MUST be ABLE TO PROVE that they can adjust and function in normal society in their ideal gender, (called the RLE or RLT - otherwise known as "The real life test") and that also means, self-entitled woman that has had the LUXURY of taking your femininity for granted, likely most of your own life, that EVERY single pre-op TS woman in this ENTIRE society has at one time, had to (respectfully, and discreetly, and VERY carefully) share facilities with YOU, and every other woman, and yet, there has never YET, in over 100 legislative districts, in more than 20 years, been such a hypothetical fearful "incident" of "forced penetration" as you graphically described, and seem to still think carries some valid measure of argument in context to the lives of real Transexual females.
"Entitlement" to simply survive an utter daily living hell of a minefield, and often desperate, dangerous, expensive, & often nothing short of impossible process to complete for many of us, and do so without rape, abuse, homelessness, familylessness, extreme hatred, misperception, stereotyping, and social discriminations to a level you could not possibly comprehend, has nothing to do with what "Entitlement" and "Obsessed" as you very shallowly characterized it.
In this matter you are entirely incorrect, and should not speak for TS women unless you are one, or are a close friend, ally, or family to one of us, and have any better understanding of this issue.
Most Respectfully,
I am, now and forevermore,
Maryanne A. Arnow