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If there were a way to bottle your kink, no one would ever need to take Adderall again.

DEAR READERS: Last week was made of problems: the bombing of the Boston Marathon, the explosion that leveled a small town in Texas, the rising tide of antigay violence in France, the North Koreans being North Korean. And it occurred to me that the last thing the world needs is more problems. So this week I'm running only letters from people who don't really have problems. Because we could all use a break.

I'm a straight 36-year-old guy. My wife has always been great about indulging my kinks, so when she announced that she had a kink of her own, I regarded it as my mission to make it happen. We just got back from a trip to see a trustworthy friend in Los Angeles who "paid" me to have sex with my wife. (He put 20 $100 bills on the bar at the hotel, but it was money I had given him.) When it was over, she kept saying how much she loved me for making her fantasy come true. People who stand in the way of their partner's fantasies don't realize what they're depriving themselves of!

Her Sub Pimp

Thanks for sharing, HSP!

I just started dating a guy who seems perfect in almost every way. (I'm a guy, too.) There's only one thing that's bugging me. He has a super-furry ass crack. I can tell he trims the hair on his legs: All he'd have to do is keep going up onto his ass and into his crack. We've been on four dates, and actually gotten fully naked only once, so it's not like I feel so totally comfortable with him that I can just come out and say it ...

Really Into Men Smooth

Your letter reminds me of a funny conversation I overheard at the gym:

Guy No. 1: "You should grow a goatee — it would feel great when you rim me."

Guy No. 2: "I have a goatee when I rim you."

Sounds like you have a beard when you rim your new boyfriend, RIMS, and I would advise you to get used to it for the time being. You're only four dates and one fully naked Big Gay Sex Romp into this new relationship, which is too soon to start asking for body mods. Once you hit, oh, 20 dates and a dozen Big Gay Sex Romps, I think you could offer to give him a hand with those clippers.

Whenever this female college student studies, she gets incredibly horny! At peak times, when I am constantly reading or studying, I find it almost impossible to go more than a couple of hours without having to masturbate. Denying the feeling is not a solution. But there are times when my productivity is negatively affected by my need to relieve myself. I am not bored sexually or mentally! Is there a physiological explanation?

Lady Hits The Books

Some people are turned on by completely random shit, and no one quite knows why. Probably something to do with our big brains — just think of all those billions of nerve endings, all those synapses making connections, all those formative childhood experiences that get synapsed up and become erotic obsessions. Think of all that and then count your lucky stars that studying turns you on. If there were a way to bottle your kink, no one would ever need to take Adderall again.

I'm a 19-year-old newbie lesbian Dom starting a relationship with a smart, sexy, wildly kinky 22-year-old. We share a lot of fetishes and our relationship so far could not be better. One issue: She's very, very into latex clothes. I have a severe allergy, to the point where I would probably need to be hospitalized if she wore latex. She's been GGG, and I want to do this for her. Is there a good alternative to latex?

Thanks In Advance

There's no working around an allergy so severe it can land you in the hospital — and with everything else you two have going for you, forgoing latex is the price of admission your new girlfriend should be willing to pay.

Last week, my 16-year-old son told me he has a crush on his best friend... who happens to be a 16-year-old boy. I've known he was gay since he was 4, but without your column, I don't think I would've been prepared for his "revelation." You taught me the importance of letting him know that I will always accept him, love him and support him in any decision he makes. The best part: He wasn't worried about telling me he's gay; he was worried that I wouldn't let his crush spend the night anymore. (And he was right!)

Proud Mom

After reading that you intend to "support [your son] in any decision he makes," I started to compose a mildly scolding response. ("Why would you do that? Gay kids, like straight kids, need their parents to be their parents. Your son needs you to meddle lovingly, to criticize constructively and to help him pull his big gay head out of his big gay ass when it needs pulling.") But you made it clear at the end — he was right to worry about those sleepovers being over — that you aren't confusing "support my gay son" with "sign off on any damn thing my gay son wants." Well done!

I am an 18-year-old British queer girl who was recently involved with an older woman while visiting the United States. She told me about your "campsite rule," and she followed it to the letter and was generally wonderful. I've since moved back to London and told everyone about your column. As a result, there's a small group of teens running around North London that adores you. 

CC

Thanks for the lovely note, and tell the older woman I said thanks — for honoring the campsite rule and for helping to build my readership in the U.K.

Find the Savage Lovecast (my weekly podcast) every Tuesday at thestranger.com/savage.

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