Who wouldn’t find it hard to move on after the untimely death of a spouse when said spouse keeps sending letters and gifts! And so it is for Holly (Hilary Swank), after her roguishly charming Irish husband, Gerry (Gerard Butler), dies. Love letters, instructions for karaoke night, an all-expenses-paid trip to Ireland — it simply prolongs Holly’s (and our) journey. Director and co-writer Richard LaGravenese pads out this flick as you’d expect — girl talk with Holly’s funnier friends (Gina Gershon and Lisa Kudrow); a few potential new lovers, including an odd bartender (Harry Connick Jr.); pretty Irish scenery; a few mournful ballads; and plenty of flashbacks. Holly and Jerry’s romance-for-the-ages is so poorly written — their cute meeting made me want to shriek — that it’s hard to care that death has ripped it asunder. There’s meatier material in Holly’s troubled relationship with her angry single mom (Kathy Bates), but frank talk about abandonment and mother-daughter jealousy doesn’t sell as many tickets as does swooning over cute shoes.